Coming Soon: Mirika Cornelius

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www.mirikacornelius.com

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Introducing MsLovelieLadie

I love your title, “Love Sweet Love.” What was the inspiration for this book? My feelings. I simply use what I’m feeling to write about.

How long have you been writing poetry and where do you get you inspiration? I started writing as a child. It was something I enjoyed that I was good at. My inspiration comes from what I am going through at that moment or what I’m feeling at that time.

Most of your poetry for the “Love Sweet Love” focuses on black love, romance and relationships. What do you think is unique about your poems and how does that fit in with the poetry genre overall right now?The realism in my poetry is real because it’s something I have experienced in some way. Anyone can place themselves into one of the situations that take place in my poetry. You can travel there while your reading it will take you there. I think that right now with all that’s going on around us people want to get away from it even if it’s only for a little while in a poem or poems. Poetry varies yet it has many commonalities that is what makes it beautiful it doesn’t have to be like anything.

When you aren’t writing poetry, who are your favorite writers and why? Whoo, well there are so many. The first poet that I really enjoyed was Ntozake Shange writer of “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When The Rainbow is Enuf.” I fell in love with the poem “Sorry.” I was in grade school at the time and my sister gave me the book and told me to read it and I did. “Sorry” touched me, I related to it. When I read it I felt empowered. To a child this is just as important a feeling as it is to an adult. That feeling has kept me writing. I wanted to feel that power and give others that same feeling.

Can you remember the first time you got the “writing bug?” What was that experience like and how did that get you to the point where you now are getting published? Well, I first started writing seriously when I was about twelve. That’s when my parents separated. Writing helped me to deal with the hurt, anger and pain of the separation. I never saw it coming everything seemed so normal so it was a shock to me. I had no one to talk to that would understand what I was feeling so I began writing. The road to where I am now is paved by family and friends who read some of my poetry and stories and encouraged me to go farther with writing. They would request that I write a poem or story for them for different occasions.

What are your future literary projects? Are there any upcoming features where your work will be highlighted? Well I have “Love Sweet Love” of course. I have a short story that will be in Zane’s Chocolate Flava 2 in August of this year. That was very exciting for me to get into her book. Also, her publishing company Strebor Books is also considering publishing my novel “Why Isn’t Love Fair,” if they do it will come out next year. So that was also very exciting. I love Zane’s work so she was the first person I submitted my work to and it is paying off. So thanks not only to Osbey Books but also to Zane with the two of you I know I’ll do well. I also have two other books of poetry I’m trying to get published. One is titled “The Darker Side of Love” it’s very intense emotional poetry about when love goes wrong. My poem “Captivated By Your Lies” comes from that book. The third book is general poetry covering a spectrum of subjects. I also have completed a book of erotic short stories. That is where I took the story from that I submitted to Choc Flava 2. I’m in the process of writing another story to take that one’s place. So hopefully things will go the way I’m praying that they do and I’ll stay busy. This for me is a lifelong dream come true.

Where did you get your pen name from? Where does it originate from and how does it define you as a writer/poet? I have an old friend who always called me Lady and I liked the way it made me feel so I kept it. I added MsLovelie to it because that is also how I feel like a lovelie ladie who loves to write.

Tell our readers where they can get information on your work, upcoming features and activities.

They can look at my Myspace page: http://www.myspace.com/mslovelieladie or check out Osbey Books Myspace page for upcoming events.

True Love

Each time I think of you I smile

Each time I see you I laugh

Each time we touch I get chills

Each time we embrace

My heart beats at a faster pace

Each time we make luv

I’m takin to another place

Each time I wake up in your arms

I realize there’s no place I’d rather be

Everyday is made a new when I remember you

Everyone can see the happiness and joy

You bring out in me

Life is always worth living

But the living is easier when we two are together

When we’re apart I’m amazed at the loneliness I feel

Deep down in my heart

It’s always been like this from the start

Cause when we first met you captured my heart

I’ve always longed to be near you

Now I realize you feel the same too

I’ve always wanted to touch your heart

And open up the door

To your love, kindness and consideration

Now that I have

Together we can start a new generation

One that’s filled with love and tenderness

And bound for sure success

Now that I have you I’ll always hold you near

You’ll always know that my luv is sincere

Now that your heart has embraced me

I no longer fear the loneliness

That once was me without you

For in my life this has been a real breakthrough

It’s a blessing for anyone to find a love that’s true

For me this has been long overdue

But, I’m glad to have found it

In the love I share with you

(c) 2007 by MsLovelieLadie

All Rights to MsLovelieLadie and Osbey Books

No Reprints without expressed permission

WHO IS MS.LOVELIELADIE?

Jacquelyn A. Bryant a.k.a. MsLovelieLadie is a Philadelphia native. She has an Associates Degree in Early Childhood Education and is the mother of three. Writing has been her passion since childhood. She plans to continue to write and have more of her work published. Some of her poetry was published on the Pages in Black website. You can contact the poet by emailing her at mslovelieladiepoet@hotmail.com.

Introducing Author Adra Young

Your book, The Everyday Living of Children & Monologues, seems to be a good resource for any young performers wanting to get into the entertainment industry. Why do you feel this book was important to bring forth? This book was important to bring forth because a need for a "Kids Based" acting guide was needed. In addition a guide was also needed to show kids what body movements to make. This book provides directives for body movements as well.

With an extensive background in the arts, how did you come to writing, or did you always write while acting in theatrical performances? This book needed to be brought to life because now more than ever the youth need a book that provide in-sights on what kids face in the inner city on a daily basis. I felt that kids would have an opportunity to see behind the eyes of another child.

With your book being published, what was the reaction from your peers and young performers alike? I have gotten some good responses and bad responses. Unfortunately people who are unaware of a urban school setting simply just cant relate. On the other hand, Reader Views of Texas stated that my guide should be on the desk of every teacher today. I was very proud of that. In addition, it brought tears to my eyes when a parent said thank you Ms. Young for telling "Our Story."

I commend you for taking your teaching strategies, tips, and learning abilities beyond the stage, and helping the youth. Where does this passion for assisting the youth come from? My passion comes directly from the students that sit in front of me everyday. Without my students, this book could have not ever came into existence.

Why do you feel it's important to empower them with this very important knowledge? Kids need to know that someone out here in this cruel world understands what there going through. Although I cannot agree with some of the choices they decide to make, I do understand why they feel they may be force to make so difficult decisions. Kids have it so hard. I feel sorry for a lot of them. A lot of them today don't get the opportunity to simply be just kids. To many adult responsibilities are being places upon them entirely too soon.

I like how you provide valueable knowledge with empowering the parents of young performers within your book. Why do you feel its important for parents to have different strategies with communicating with young singers, actors and actresses? In my opinion, "The Arts" since the beginning of times have served as ways for the youth to express their inner feelings. Whether dance, singing, or acting, these strategies can all work as great ways for kids and parents to communicate. I also conduct a workshop titled, How to Utilize Acting as a Healing Component for the Youth." This workshop allows individuals to read/dramatize acts to help the youth with solving their problems. I know as an adult myself how work and survival can sometimes overwhelm one with unintentionally overlooking to communicate with their kids. I have had parents read the book and tell me how they could relate directly to the act in the book. In other words they faced the same issue as a child.

Tell me about the impact of your program ARDANNYL. What does it stand for? How has this program affected the community as a whole? Ardannyl is simply my first and middle name spelled backwards. My name is Adra Lynn. I got this idea from Oprah. LOL This program has in my opinion through the utilization of acting assist kids not only with acting but fear factors as well. I had a student who took the class just to overcome his stuttering.

Please tell our readers if there are any youth showcases, book signings, or other events that you will be highlighted. If you would like to book me for a workshop, log on to www.schoolbookings.com. Just simply type in my name. I may also be reaches at 313-729-2573. On February 10, 2007 at 11:00 am. I shall conduct a guest speakers appearance and workshop at Macomb Public Library in Clinton Township, Michigan. You may also contact me at www.ardannyl.com or, www.myspace.com/ardannyl.

Title : The Everyday Living of Children & Teens Monologues

ISBN: 1-41205949-6
Author: Adra Young

The Acting/Social Skills Guide of the Decade for the youth ranging from ages 7thru12 and ages 12 thru 18

Things to consider as you read the excerpts.


When reading this guide it is imperative to implement the directive enclosed within the parenthesis. Please try to implement the directives while reciting the monologues at the same time. These are the actions that make the acts appear real.


A young lady expresses how it feels to end a relationship minutes before a date.


“HOW COME I’M BEING DUMPED?”


Friday after school, my boyfriend told me he’d pick me up from my place at six. We were going to the show. I re-curled my hair. I put on my favorite outfit. I even added a hint of lipstick and sprayed on a little of Mom’s perfume. While Spraying Mom’s perfume, the phone rang at 5:55. It was my guy. Surprisingly, he wasn’t calling to let me know that he was running late. He wasn’t calling to tell me that his mom’s car had broken down either. Individual shakes her head no.) When he said it was over, it felt as if my heart had been pulled from the inside of my chest and thrown to the ground. (Individual balls her fist up and imitates throwing her heart toward the ground.) I told him to have a nice life and quickly hung the phone up!

After a whole year of dating he’s not interested in me anymore. How could he waste my time? What’s his problem? Exactly what went wrong? I thought he liked me so much. Apparently not true! Because if he really cared about me he would have not
dumped me! States in a disappointed manner.) I bet I’m the only girl in the world to ever get dismissed by a guy on a Friday night.

Having a personal experience with acne this little lady catches a whiff of the “Stay Home Blues.”

“THE CASE OF THE DOTS”

I’m never leaving this house again! Everything was great until this year. Now that I’m twelve, my clothes are too little. (Individual grabs jeans by the waist indicating they’re too tight.) Looks like my hair has even stopped growing. Just last month mom and dad told me that I have to get braces. I thought that was the worse! Until two weeks ago.


Two weeks ago two bumps appeared on my fore-head. The day after that, three popped up on my jaw. By the end of the week my entire face was covered with pimples.(Individual points her hand at her face and moves it in circular motion.) They are so ugly! And now I am so ugly. (States depressingly.)


Mom and dad told me they would go away real soon. Well, how come real soon
can’t be right now? I hate looking at myself in the mirror. I can’t even see my own face due to acne. Well, I tell you, I just refuse to leave this house. And until these dot’s clear up on my face. I’m gonna remain right here! Right here at home!

About the Author
Adra Young is a native of Gary, Indiana. A teacher of eleven years, she’s also an Actress, Writer, and Actors Coach for youngsters. Graduating from Roosevelt High School in 1990 and, Central State University in 1995, she took her first shot at acting on the college campus in 1993.

Earning her Master’s degree in 1999 from the University of Detroit Mercy, she currently instructs Acting and Dramatization Strategies to the youth. In 2004, she took her first shoot at becoming a Play Wright and produced On the Scene Representing the Red Black and Green, a tribute to the Honorable Marcus Mosiah Garvey.

Some of Ms. Young most recent independent work in 2006 involves her direct involvement in the theater production of the play titled Sweets, and her film involvement with the movie titled Amsteroids in Ann Arbor Michigan.

About The Book

Her book, The Everyday Living of Children & Teens Monologues, is a realistic testament of situations that children, teens, males, or females of all ethnical backgrounds are faced with on the daily basis of their lives directly or indirectly. www.trafford.com/05-0850

The book is a performance arts guide for children and teens striving to become Superior Actors. It contains 51 real life acts of children and teens to implement for improvement of performing arts. Parents may utilize this book to address sensitive subject areas and establish stronger communication bonds with their kids.


Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule. We wish you success in all your future endeavors.



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Literary Flowings...

It has been a while since I've actually blogged and that's because I am working on a few things.

My publisher hat has been on since january 1st and that means, I am reading manuscripts, line editing, reviewing and acquiring books for Osbey Books and promoting books by myself and MrTalley.

I have a pretty hectic schedule and plan to be everywhere I can this year. I might get whip lash, however it's important to market the books and connect with others.

I'm still new in the area and want to learn and not to humble to ask.

I'm excited about the novels and the poetry projects that are coming to me. I hope to have an Spring/Summer catalog of sorts and a new website for Osbey Books.

Mochasistahonline.com will have to be revamped as well.

Upnext will be the Celebration of African American Authors Event in Oklahoma City. It's been a while since I've traveled and I'm excited to meet other authors, connect, sell books and just meet readers.

Additionally, I will be seeking submissions for the youth anthology I am working on called Speaking Me, which will feature youth writers age 10-18, which I am also seeking funding for so I can really produce a beautiful book that everyone will embrace. I have plans to release the book nationally and locally, and also place on library shelves.

Currently my book is under consideration to be placed in Grambling State University's library. I am an alumni and also under consideration to be a presenter at the University. This is a very great time for me.

I'm humble enough to know where the blessings are flowing.

If you are interested in receiving my book, Musings of a Mocha Sista, it's in most of the libraries, just google the title with your local library you might find it. I have found that the book is here in Chicago and at least 6 other cities/states.

Again, thank you for your continued support.

I need it.

Be well,
Mocha Sistah

Be Grateful

The amazingly great thing about life is that lessons come everyday and it's up to us to receive the lesson or ignore it. A few weeks ago (2 or 3) i got a message from a friend about a friend who had been sick but I wasn't able to get to the hospital to see that particular friend until Friday. When I went to the hospital, I was unaware of that his status would be something to remind me that...everything is a blessing.

Even the smallest things, like talking, can be a blessing.

My friend basically has been in a coma for 6 weeks, but I didn't know until he told me his story on friday. Basically over one month and a half he had been running on empty calories, eating unhealthy, and working very hard. So hard that he barely got sleep (he was working 20 hours a week).

One day he got sick but thought it was a stomach flu but it wasn't it.

When he got to the hospital, he said he wasn't feeling good, but it wasn't too bad. About a few hours into the hospital visit, his body buckled and he was in a coma.

He came out of the coma earlier this week, believe it or not. He had been asking to see me and other friends. I was glad to see him and to find that he had began talking on Wednesday was another blessing.

I was seeing myself in that bed, as I watched him. I know I do a lot of things. He's another driven Virgo like me. It was an epiphany and the lesson has not been lost on me.

I bet he'll never believe that me remembering the little things and blessings all came from visiting him in that hospital bed.

As we get close to Thanksgiving, I think we should remember it's not about the dressings and eating all the food. That our family, friends, our health, and our lives are extremely important.

Slowing down as become a very important thing for me lately. I know it's not popular for some who need me, but I need to stay focused on the little things. Talking is something we all take for granted.

What if you woke up one day and couldn't even speak a syllable. My friend could not speak for weeks on end.

Slow down, breath, and truly embrace your lives. You never know what is planned and being grateful can be something to add more abundancies to your lives.

Have a very beautiful Thanksgiving!

-- Mocha Sistah

BRING IT ON!

I feel loved.
I miss being in the class room. I love teaching. And it's that time again to bring it on. Time for me to re-write my curriculum and get ready for the parks. I'm scheduled at three parks - one on the far south side, one in the middle of the south side and one in a latin community on the south west side. I also will be teaching lower and upper grades at three schools - 2 elementary schools and one high school. I am entering my fifth, I believe, year at South Shore School of Entrepreneurship. Hopefully I won't see any past students. Last year I taught one or two former students, because they had extra time, and one did not pass her Junior year and had to repeat. I love new blood and energy.

Today I have to attend an Open House at my old school, Kozminski, to meet and greet parents. I will hopefully be starting at all my schools by early October so I can at least get a check before Thanksgiving.

Normally, my park programs pay me every two weeks, but the school program, funded by the Poetry Center, pays on a different time schedule and it's waiting for that first check to hit you, 6 weeks later that bits you in the butt. But once you get it, everything is all groovy.

I am hoping to travel to Detroit in October. Also, working on my demo.

Decisions need to be made about which new poets I will add to my curriculum. I have so many poetry books aquired over the summer and I love to add more great poems to the list to be taught. I especially love to make sure that the high schoolers see conscious poetry on all levels.

The theme for the park program is "peace" and that will be good incorporate because of the times we live in and some of the communities I will be teaching in.

I have a lot of meetings next week, and then it's off to two days of park programming where I will work with 200-300 kids in workshops with other educators.

My time off laying in bed, chilling, watching Judge Mathis will be over. My summer vacation is almost over.

Any good ideas of poets I should add to the curriculum? Please let me know below in the commentary section.

God bless,
Mocha Sistah

Pre-Birthday Musings...

This is the second year reading at the Chicago Poetry Fest...last year was a blast and I don't know why this year, would not be the same. It's a great event where you listen all day to all kinds of writers. Recently as I reviewed the updated book, Tears of a Woman: The Light Within, I got chills up my spine. I really enjoyed the fact that I have had some blessings relating to the book, not in book sales, but general feedback. A lot of people love the little book. All I wanted to do was to write something important. I'm currently waiting on two book reviews, one from a magazine, and one from a writer in the prison system. The last review gave the book four out of five stars,not too bad. I must admit, I haven't been too hard working on getting it into the stores, but after I finish formatting a few author books I will. God has given me a wide open schedule and I only will be working four days starting in October, as I start teaching again, so I will have time to go to some stores and drop off press kits, maybe this time will be different. My networks for marketing are different, as I am now a publisher and I have open channels that will get me where I need to go. Liquid Kisses is getting some love in Chicago and I need to reorder both books in September so I can be ready for literary events in the next few months. I want to move my novel out into the open next year, and hard at work to get that done as well. I will publish it in hard cover, and get a cover designed for it.

Summer 2006 travelling was fun, trips to Bradley University, Cal Poly, and Atlanta, all brought me into focus on my divine purpose. To empower, entertain, and inspire. I had a lot of fun networking with others. The Black Poetry Reunion (www.theblackpoetrycafe.com) was great. Meeting Mark Goggins and the crew (Starr, David Lockett, Ro and others...were great), next April we are going to converge in Chocolate City (DC)...so that should be fun.

Literary events are popping up for me in 2007 (yeah, already). I'm a confirmed panelist at the Brother 2 Brother Symposium, which will be in New Jersey next March 2007, I'm also waiting for confirmation on performing at Ladyfest South (in Decatur, GA) next January. Most likely will be at either the Harlem Book Fair, Printer's Row Book fair or Queens Book Fair in 2007. Need to promote a new title...from Osbey Books and that will keep me pretty busy.

This weekend all is great. I have 5 days to my birthday, family and friends keeping me busy as well as God. I am in a focus group this morning, then I have to interview an artist tonight for a magazine feature. Sunday I will be at the Chicago Poetry festival all day.

Thursday's my birthday, and I will have a 2 hour meeting, then several hanging outs with friends. Friday, a party in Gary Indiana for us VIRGOs, and the rest of the next weekend will be a blur, a mix between family and friends.

I have no time to feel "bluesy" about my b-day...as some might do. I am getting up there. But God's got this queen moving and grooving. I can't wait to get back into school I miss the babies.

Things I am musing on: leaving Chicago, picking a grad school and steps to get me to my ultimate goal by age 41. So I have a lot in my head. Also I want to get back into the studio and work on some tracks. I want to apply my song writing skills to some contests and also do some singing gigs.

All in the life of an ever evolving sister.

Anyway, have a blessed weekend. Do something special for yourself. Don't forget bout the village...they always need you.
\mocha sistah

Sights and Delights

This is the unofficial, official, Mocha Sistah weekend beat report. Served up Sunny Style on a Sunday.

Friday, on a misty Friday night.........I attended the 25 High School Reunion of Hirsch High School....on the Spirit of Chicago with my cuzn's Kim and Sheree, as they met up again with old classmates, went down memory lane with classmates on a Two and 1/2 Hour Boat Midnight Cruise that left Navy Pier...and circled mostly around the Lake Michigan area. Sheree flew up from Kansas where she lives with her two kids, and Kim lives right down the street from me. Around 11ish we made our way over to Navy Pier and waited for a classmates of Kim's at the spot in front of the boat. It was damp and dreary but for me, a free ticket to hang out with the cuzn's and chill. Sheree was dolled up in her Cream Colored Two-piece pant suit, while I chose a Sheer Black and White top with my Jazzy Blue Jeans and Silver open-toed sandals...and Kim topped off our group with an Island influenced summer dress and sandals. Although we waited a while to get into the boat, it was a quick journey up to the second level of the boat and the first person I saw entering the spot, was an old friend/co-worker who just so happened to be the deejay (Fabian N.) and a few beats later I was in the drink line and bumped into Frank (another former co-worker) and some of his Omega Psi Phi brothers. As I got to the table back with my cuzn's, and twirling on my weak Apple Martini, I glanced up to see Dawn, a classmate of mine's from Kenwood Academy who so happened to be on the same boat. We joked about our class reunion's heavy price...and our non-activity of it. As the music kicked in, Mocha got her groove on doing the Cha Cha slidddd.....e and then left the boat with cuzn's around 2:40 or so.

Saturday.....with Mom's.
My mom and I attended the Ravinia festival highlighting the 80th birthday of blues legend BB King and the show was opened up by Mavis Staples, another bluesy legend. Since we were smart enough to take the Metra train up, we avoided most of the traffic and we were able to catch an early train, which enable us to scope out a better spot near the front stage although we had lawn seats, Ravinia is designed where you can hear the artist whereever you are sitting. The night was overcast but didn't rain and we had a great time laughing at the some of the slightly drunk listeners sitting near us. We sipped on White Zinfindel and Red Wine; nibbled on Chicken Breast Sandwiches and assorted snacks. And even though we left a little early from the concert, we were able to get back downtown around 11:30 pm (Ravinia is in Highland Park, IL); eventually creeping back to my side of town around 12:30 am.

Sunday...with Mom's and my gurls.
My mom and I went to breakfast...5 Loaves Restaurant, a South Shore staple, where I chowed down on Buttermilk Pancakes and Mom's had a traditional breakfast (scrambled eggs and green peppers/onions) with toast and creamy grits. Mom's took a nap (at my crib) and I surfed the web...and fielded phone calls midmorning. A client kept calling me unsuccessfully I add (I do have to have some rest so I did not answer my phone)....Midafternoon, Mom's on her way back to the South Suburbs, gave her a hug and kiss and took my own nap. Around 4pm, my gurls came calling and got me up out of the house to the Alpha Phi Alpha Picnic where we kicked it with some of the Alphas and I realized I knew one of them...Brandon, who I worked with last weekend in California. Small small world. Anyway, the highlights were one of us gurls got some digits....it wasn't me (rolling eyes), and we chowed down on some fantastic rib tips, and sweets. Side dishes were gone by the time we got up in there. The weather was absolutely beautiful.

As I enter a new week, I'm hoping to finish one book and start another project. I got some new authors and returning ones. It's back to the grind. Enjoy the rest of your weekend. I will.

-- Mocha Sistah

Stuck in the Past and More...

I get this sooo often, "I know you." The statement dripped off this cute older patron at the Southside Seafood Restaurant on Tuesday as I stopped by there to get a bit to eat. She had curly hair, a jazzy black suit on, and those glasses that her brown eyes appealed to mines. I shook my head, trying to figure out where, did I know her from. As I sat and browsed magazines, she asked me again, "Didn't you go to Kenwood Academy?" I nodded acknowledging that I had graduated in 198_...U know Im not telling you, right. Anyway, she mentioned that I used to be the "coupon girl" and I laughed, not even remembering. I think as I went to KA, I was like my mom's assistant so I probably was clipping coupons in the class. Well, all this conversation was with...if you haven't guessed by now, my Senior High School Typing Teacher. I sucked at typing and I used to spend a lot of time talking in that class.

It was weird seeing her twenty years later...but she looked the same. She mentioned I was "skinny" then but was chunkier now. Okay, it was cool though. She was really impressed with my accomplishments. I was stuck in the past, remembering, I hated high school, but I got through it.

Isn't it funny how getting stuck in the past can hinder you. For me, that conversation was a nice through back. As I had a chance to talk with my former teacher, I realized, that I've done a heck of a lot with just a little - faith, love, and acceptance of my God-given abilities. I graduated with a 1.8 GPA, yep, that's right. And one year later when I transferred to Columbia College (don't ask how I got in with that GPA), I was an honor student with a 3.8 GPA, then I transferred to Grambling State University to finish off my journey.

I really didn't know what I was going to do in College, but I applied myself and quickly figured out English was the way to go. I began writing poetry around the age of eighteen and since that moment, could not stop.

I'm glad I didn't let my 1.8 hinder me, for I knew that I was not a "dummy" but I had allowed life issues with my past hinder me and stop my progression, sort of like most students I work with in the schools now.

I only use myself as a living testimony, that with a little you can do a lot. Life gets hard, and choices have to be made. All you can do is the best you can do and push on. Pray. Until. Something. Happens. Use your God-given ability and of course, your family, your community, your enemies, your energies, to do a lot.

It can help push you on. But staying stuck in the past, not dealing with your issues, or trying to figure out how to get yourself to the next level, can be something that keeps you glued to the negativity.

I hope you find this blog of use and if you have suggestions on how being stuck in the past...can hinder progression in life, please share below.

Be blessed,
Mocha Sistah

Tell Me Something:PHAT or FAT

Question of the week: PHAT or fat.

I was receiving messages this week from a guy (internet dating...again) and he asked me what the difference between fat or extra pounds was. He told me how much he weighed and I thought this "foine" man is asking me...if it's okay to talk with him because he thinks he is FAT> yes, he described himself as fat. He's in the two hundreds but I like my men, thick so that was not an issue with me. I told him my weight and he declared, "you are cute...only a few extra pds".

So I wondered, what's the difference between fat, extra pounds, or phat. I consider myself pretty hot and tempting = phat with some extra pounds. I only had 2 guys in the last year tell me they don't like women with "extra pds". It don't matter to me. I feel comfortable in my skin. I don't have a problem if a brother wants to date some other eye-candy because i'm not "cute" or "fit enough".

I feel it's more than a person's weight anyway, but I know people have there preference.

What's your two cents on this subject? As for me, I can't tell you how many foine men, have approached me...or non-"cute" guys...because of my personality and how I carry myself. I am me. I don't have low self-esteem when it comes to my body. I feel very good about myself as a woman. I don't have to "throw" myself at a man..or anything like that. I know I'm attractive, however, I am not stuck on the mirror and my down to earth personality wins them over every time....like I said, I don't care to focus on "my size". I am who I am. I'm a thick gurl. I embrace that. I like it. And so does a lot of men who I come across daily.

The flip side of the body...are deeper things like a person's substance, and other things like personality, how a person carries themselves, what their morals are...are more important that some one just cute...or foine. Cuz...they could have an ugly personality, or way about them that would leave a bad taste in your mouth.

Please leave comments in the guestbook.,..Thanks!

Mocha Sistah

Freelancing or Not?

So, this summer things did not exactly go the way I wanted them to...But I know one thing. When things go unplanned, sometimes it's a better result. Now, by August i will be Mocha Broka files - eating on ramen noodles and waiting for birthday gifts to roll in. Though I didn't get a chance to go back to the Youth group, I am happy I have had 1 month to relax, be lazy, and be on my own schedule. This has forced me to relax a lot more, hang with family, and have time for friends which I normally don't. I have been writing more freelance articles - I'm now on Associated Content, and will post that link where I get paid for articles. I'm a virtual assistant for two clients and it's hectic but workable. I hate email more than ever since I have to be online all day most days - not chatting but posting articles, reviewing books, and let's not talk about my eyes...I do have glasses and will need new ones by the time school rolls back in. I got a check from a poem that got published this month. I won't talk about what I ain't making. I will say that at least I feel that I'm doing my purpose. I am about to sip on some strawberry boons and repack my bag for tommorrow I"m going to enjoy a concert at Ravinia - Patti Labelle...with friends and my Mom.

I've been dealing with the low side of Self-Employed life - it ain't easy but I am hanging in there. I'm grateful for my parterships...and collaborations. I know at the end of the day I am doing what God designed for me to do. I am on the path he wants me to travel. And he continues to blesses me in ways that makes me know I"m where I need to be.

Freelancing has been very interesting. Writing harder than ever. Submissions all over the place. I'm toying with the possibility of rolling myself out as an artist. I have the voice. I know who to get to work on my material. Just haven't gotten my feet wet yet...I'll keep you posted on that.

If you get a chance, please go to the American Idol site and vote for my tracks My Temple and Misinterpretations - Station 111 and 112. My temple is currently at #5 and Misinterpretations at #30 out of 50 tracks. I added my favorite spoken word poem, Lowercase, which is now featured in "Songs of Hope".

I wish you a beautiful day and weekend. Stay cool.

Until then.....keep it going.

- Mocha Sistah

A semi-hair journey

(April 2006)

Hair Chronicles

At some point I will be posting a whole pic gallery but this one is a July pic, from a few days ago...

Enjoy!

Mocha S.

Hair Chronicles Part IV

Hey allll....I'm just checking in. It's been a while since I posted about this subject. I love my hair. I had changed lock-tians.. because I had missed one appointment with the last stylist. I got a new stylist this week. I been maintaining my hair on my own. Basically using water, and my hair oils. Using my silk hair wrap. It's growing longer, and with my new stylist it will be much better. It doesn't matter that I used to have a ponytail....but i like the way my hair is growing. And it's been pretty much a work in progress, just like me. I will be posting some pictures soon.

Well, the real part of me doesn't want to tell the truth...but I'm gonna. When I went in to the first sistah, she didn't do much with my hair. I didn't know too much...until I got the 2nd sister who stated, my hair was not started right and that my parts were "messed up" and that my hair wasn't parted right. When I found out that I was a little disappointed the first young lady did not tell me - the truth and was just taking my money. I felt kind of stupid, but I guess it's a learning experience. The 2nd person to work my hair did the following:

Took each lock and retwisted it from the scalp, palming it.
Used some cream (lock cream) on each strand of my hair
Used pens at the end to secure it so each strand would be worked on individually.

Results - my hair looks like some of the folks I see passing. I thought because my hair is curly that it was taking longer with my previous stylist, but she did not do much but twirl my hair, not palm it as much as my new stylist. My new stylist did not use the hair dryer...either.

I like the way my hair looks. I'm not mad at the first person. I guess what I'm tryna say is that do your research when you go through this process. Talk with friends that might have dreadlocks and ask them what is involved. Know that it takes time for your hair to form and that the locks you see on tv on some stars are the "fake ones" that do not take that much time to grow over time like your own hair. Know that every one's hair is different. IN my hair I have hair in the back that is locking quicker. The hair in the front is more curly and has different textures.

Maintaining it is easy...so take that water, use it on your hair. Massage your scalp. Use your lock gel. Use your hair incense. Take care of your hair basically. I've taken more care of my hair now than ever.

I'm pretty satisfied. I got a stylist from a referral from a friend. I saw the client she works on and his hair is beautiful. So that was a good sign, plus she does house calls and came right to my home and she was very cool, kindhearted, and besides that she ran late, we had good results. I will be staying with her...because she's good. And cheap.

I spend under $100 every other month to maintain my hair. It aint' bad.

Anyway, take it light and we'll be in touch. Again, pictures will be on the way.

-- Mocha Sistah

Defining Success For You

I always equated success with thousands of dollars, a Benz, and a fat bank account. But as I got along in life, I redefined my measure of success because it's not always about the materialistic things in life. There are things in my life that are much wealthier than a big bank account, and physical things I cannot take when I leave this earth.

Eleven months ago when I ventured into the Self-Employed lifestyle, I had no real goals. I was going along with what God gave to me. I was stripped from a nine-to-five job where I was very stressed out, and not feeling that I used my gifts fully. I was taken from a very secure situation to a more flexible lifestyle as an Educator and Freelance Writer. When I worked a regular job, I did not pay all my bills on time, yes, this is true. I was living beyond my means...and I was trying to play constant catch up with bills. When I started my new life, I got all my bills straightened out, and to this date, all my bills are pretty much being paid up. I haven't had any problems with anything. I just had to redefine my life in according to what matters.

What became a focus point for me was:

Family
Close Friends
Community/Volunteering
Assisting Artists

What's Wealth for me:
The way I treat my friends
The way I treat my family
Networking with people who I can help
and who can help me

A Successful day:
Did I treat people kindly
Did I have time for my family/friends
Did I have any valuable "me" time

Successful things in my life:
Inclusions in anthologies
Contributing Writing Highlights
Being able to share with youth
Positive comments from my musers
Praise reports from my friends who
were recently blessed
My peace of mind and spirit

I think it's important to plant seeds of positivity. If I walk this earth for years and never blessed a kind word or deed to another soul, all the book sales in the world means nothing. If I walk this earth for years and died tommorrow, if no one remembered a kind deed or word that I did, then all my living would be in vain. Success for me has more to do with my spirit and soul and what I've done in the world to be a positive loving human being.

What you choose to focus on - and being a success in life has to do with you. For me, it can be 2 books sold, or a new referral from a client. Or a conversation with a school that praised me on work I completed...

I'm wishing you well on your successful endeavors in life. Remember, it's what you do with your "dash" that counts. It's what you do on this earth NOW before you released from your earthly obligations...

Be successful always!
-- Mocha Sistah

Letting Go: Giving Back to Your Soul

Don't you wish you could be this little girl with no problems, just laying around and enjoying without any real burdens? Yes, you do...but you can't. Sometimes the load of life can be a bit much. And I know you have heard the statement, "Let Go and Let God." But it's a little more challenging than just saying that out loud and hoping for the best.

Whether it's you getting out of a relationship, dealing with a difficult situation, or getting a divorce, it's hard to let go of something that meant so much to you.

Ask yourself a few guiding questions:

1) What can I do to be positive about the situation?
2) Why am I so mad about this?
3) How did I contribute to the situation?
4) Can I forgive or forget?
5) Will it matter that the person says, "I'm Sorry"?
6) Why am I "stuck" on the rage/pain?
7) Is it hard to say good bye to the memories?
8) How can I honor myself and the other person?

Part of letting go sometimes is dealing with the death of something. The stages of grief are apart of letting go of the situation. IN addition to that it's also feeling rejected, or that you have failed. Nothing in life is perfect. Do one favor to your soul, try to ease the load. Yes, it's harsh sometimes when dealing with life issues and unexpected situations, but you have to eventually let go and give back to your soul.

Find the courage to do what you feel is right for you.

Suggested ways to deal with this:

1) Find a way to speak to the person
2) Write a letter
3) Phone call
4) One-on-One visit
5) Do not blame or accuse them
6) Be accountable for your actions/contributions to this situation
7) Write in your journal
8) Try to sort out feelings before you address them
9) Find a friend/person who'll be non-judgemental that can listen
objectively; it's not all about advice. You need a sounding board
10) Stay true to yourself
11) Accept the person as they are: it's possible they may not be able to
say I'm Sorry or even take accountability for their actions
12) Take the high road

Be blessed and post any other tips on the blog. Your soul will truly, truly
thank you for taking that "load" away.

- Mocha Sistah

Fourth of July Celebrations

Well...it's that time of the year again. Barbecues and celebrations. I spent part of my weekend in Saint Louis, Missouri with the family, enjoying the best in finest of southern cuisines. It was blazing between 90 degrees and 100! The kids were great. Family was in the house! Best dishes to die for: Roast Beef and Veggies, Fried Corn, Peach Cobbler, Seven Layer Salad. I also fell in love with Soy Milk - Vanilla...It was delicious and I don't even like Soy Milk. Go figure~

I got a lot of rest and relaxation, no internet for four days which might be a Mocha Sistah record.

I was talking with a family member who decided to keep family tradition by entering active duty. He's only 17, and I'll definitely be praying for his tradition from high school to active duty. He's in his last year of schooling in Kansas.

Mocha's July 4th Dinner:
Buffalo Wings
Potato Salad
Baked Beans
Spaghetti
Fried Corn
Fresh Pineapple

I decided to cook today and chill for the rest of this week.

July 4th FASHION DONT'S:
I saw some scary outfits yesterday as I rolled back into town - Fourth of July folks does not mean, SCARY FASHIONS. I love my sisters truly I do. But .....let's keep it simple. If you don't have the toned up thighs and stomachs, certain outfits should only be worn at home. For real... Got a stomach, hide it. Got flab, hide it. Doesn't matter what size you are, you can still be sexy without being TRASHY.

Keep it simple...
Keep it classy...

That's what Grandma told me.

Well, enough of me and my little update. I'll be eating in a minute or so.

Safety issues:
Drive...no drinking.
Fireworks...please be careful, read the instructions
and move those babies away from the sparklies.

Fourth of July Shoutouts: to those in Iraq and actively serving. Thanks for taking the bullets and serving and PROTECTING us all. Without you, we would be exposed, open and at risk. You may not hear it all the time, but we appreciate you. And prayer for those who've lost families in all American wars, the world wars, and current wars. God Bless you always.

Much love and spirit.

-- Mocha Sistah

Friday Ramblings

Fire My Words

What's up family? What's going on a freaking friday? A terror plot foiled in Florida was what I heard this morning. I really don't have much to talk about today...I am working on a few books that are in print mode. One important one (hush...huge project that is hoooott to death) that will drop in a few literary beats. I'm going to relax this weekend, with family and finish up some projects. It's the last week that I have to myself before I have to be working in the community again. I'll be going to Saint Louis for a few days over the holiday break, then hit Indy for the Indianapolis Black Expo at RCA Dome...

I had a wonderful but short interview on Power Talk radio on Wednesday and setting up author interviews and booksignings, trying to get a distributor for my book company, and a lot of press kits going to stores, and stuff. Soon to be on the net...Liquid Kisses will be featured on www.oncewritten.com and 2 of my books will be raffled off in a July Book Contest. Don't forget to email me for book requests before I roll this fully out...autographed copies can be mailed to you. Just email me at mochachyna35@yahoo.com with subject line: Liquid Kisses Book and I'll take care of that for you.

I'm currently on a few more sites:
www.mochachyna.multiply.com
www.poetrypoem.com/mochasistah

I'm placed in Check Da Rhyme Anthology as published by Lit Noire Publishing out of New York City. It features female poets and emcees. I have a hip hop social commentary piece in there that got featured. That's cool. I'm also in Literary Divas one of 100 women writers featured in a book published by Amber Books.

Well, it's a nice and cool day in Chicago. It's been pretty peaceful this week and a lot going on that I'm not talking about on this space. But it's all good. I bid you adieu. Be careful with driving and dealing with any of your life issues. Be grateful for all you have in your life.

With love and life...
Be blessed,
Mocha Sistah

Loving Black MEN: ODES TO MY BROTHERS

Soooo, in case you haven't noticed I'm a black woman...and I love black men. Yes, we hear all the statistics all the time, but when was the last time you praised them "any how." Not sure if you haven't seen a recent interview with Serena Williams who mentioned that she no longer dated black men because they are boys and that in ten years they will be obsolete. She made references to Oprah Winfrey's relationship with Stedman and made some allegations about Oprah and children. I know that it's easier to throw stones at our brothers when they are down and I have heard from a lot of black men that women just love to dog 'em out. I thought when I read the interview by Serena that I think it's awful to just give up on the brothers. I mean, I applaud her for finding her 'white' king, however, it's not that easy for me.

And even though I've lived without my father in my life, grew up without him, that has not twisted me to the point where I will flat out give up on them and just say I am not longer interested in them because they are all DOGS or that they are all MESSED Up. As we all go through life, we encounter people who have bags; emotional, physical, dysfunctionalites from childhood. I just think it's really sad when one of our own, says black men are not worth her time or energy. I believe she should have her opinion but I'm not quite through with ya'll yet.

And I am still a believer in my brothers.

Wanted to say a few wonderful things:

I love when you make me smile; when you know I'm pissed
I love when you call me just to say hi.
I love when you drop by the house to help with a project.
I love your strength, humility, creativity, romance, spirituality, and individuality.

Thank you for opening doors for me.
Thank you for being there when I need a 'pick-me-up'
Thank you for being great friends, fathers, mentors, teachers, bus drivers,
whatever gift God gave you.
Thank you for not giving up on yourself in a world that has put you
down sometimes.
Thank you for dealing with us (sisters) when we get a little emotional about
things.
Thank you for taking scraps of your life, and overcoming your challenges.

For those who feel down when they hear sisters say negative things:

Remember there are many more of us who adore you.
Remember there are many more of us who care for you.
Remember there are many women, not just black women, love some of 'you'.
Remember you are needed.
Remember we care about you, even though NONE of us are perfect, we surely appreciate you in our lives...we really do, even when we are 'cursing' you out. ************************************************************************

From my heart to yours...much love and energy
but mostly respect. Remember some of us still need you.
--- Mocha Sistah

Praise for Fathers (everywhere)

So I guess we can start with Celebrity fathers...Beyonce's dad, played a leadership roll in her musical career, Denzel has provided for his family (in a nice quiet way, we never hear anything about him or his family and when we see them they look HAPPY), Tiger's dad helped to develop his career as a golfer, Serena's father, Richard Williams, also a vocal and strong Black man, made sure to have strong values for his children, and helped them grooming their tennis careers.

Of course, not all dad's are celebrities, but dang it, you can make them feel such this weekend. After all, if he's playing a roll in your life, giving you something like his TIME (which is valuable), providing you with life lessons, a roof over your head, coached you in a baseball game, or attended a function where you were honored or performed or were highlighted, then give you DADDY some love and appreciation.

The best daddy memories for me were:

- Him showing me how he worked on cars
- Him laughing at my singing at age 11
- Him telling me he was proud when I first got published
- Him kissing me, when I got stung by a Bee on Easter Sunday

I think it's easy to over look Fathers impact on the family when a society that praises Mothers more than Fathers. I think we should keep in mind that they (men) need that appreciation, and yes, it's expected that a father does certain things for his children but don't over look the small things:

LOVING your father spells, a home cooked dinner; he'll appreciate it.
LOVING your father spells, a home made card, or a store bought 1 with some
money, or cool phrases inside them to let him know you appreciate him.
LOVING your father could mean doing some chores for him, letting him
relax.
LOVING your father could mean making sure he has all his favorites: newspapers, libations, moments of quietness in the house, a surprise home made gift

You can do something SPECIAL to let him know that he's appreciated.

I know we live in a world where some fathers aren't up to par but all of them are not bad and like I said appreciation goes a long long way.

And if your father has gone on to glory, remember the beautiful good times.

Have a great and beautiful weekend with your FATHER.

- Mocha Sistah